September 27, 2009
This is a bit of a follow-up to the link the other day about early marriage. I’m going to use an analogy to give my thoughts about abstinence-base sex education.
Suppose that nutrition classes were almost exclusively about how to avoid food poisoning while eating dessert. The result is kids end up eating a lot of dessert and getting obese. So other people start their own nutrition classes where they emphasize the importance of finishing your meal before eating dessert and only eating small desserts. But it’s still all about dessert, and kids still eat a lot of dessert (not always after meals) and getting fat, and they still don’t know anything about real nutrition.
As long as the instruction is all about sex and not about relationships and child bearing and child rearing and communication and respect and shared finances and all the other things that go into marriage, we can’t ever expect kids to get it right. Kids don’t need a negative message about sex, they need a positive message about marriage.